Decoding Love

One of the most exciting things about college life is getting introduced to the ‘dating scene’. When it comes to dating, college can be an amazing opportunity. In case you are already in a relationship, it might get a little hard for you to stay away from your loved one and if you have started dating someone after joining college, trust me, it’s going to be a bitter-sweet time. The idea of love might sound really fascinating and stimulating but the path is never filled with just roses. Love is like a rollercoaster- exciting, scary, filled with ups and downs, but what makes it beautiful is the person you can hold on to, during this whole ride. When you come to college, your social circle widens extensively which can also lead to finding your partner. Once you know that you have found ‘the one’ and are ready to start dating, then this article is definitely for you. It will guide you and give you solid pieces of advice on how to handle dating and relationships in college. But before you get into any relationship always remember to love and respect yourself first. Till the time you do not love yourself, no matter how much you try, the other person will always not be able to love you the way you want to be loved and treated.

1) DON’T RUSH

First things first, do not rush into finding someone to date if you are not ready. Remember that having a boyfriend or a girlfriend in college is never a requirement. Downloading dating apps and going on different continuous dates to look for ‘love’ is a big no-no. Dating someone just to look ‘cool’ in front of others, can definitely have a negative impact in future and breaking someone’s heart is never cool. If you feel dating could affect your studies then it is strongly advisable to not get into a relationship till the time you are confident that you will be able to handle all your work and studies no matter what comes in your way. Your first priority should be education and then a relationship in a college.

2) SEEK RESPECT

Always remember, respect is one of the most important factors of a healthy relationship. You should seek for respect and not attention from your partner. Getting attention from your partner is a good feeling but if that person does not respect or value you and your choices, then that is a red flag and a sign that your relationship is getting toxic. Never let your partner put you down. Even if you are casually dating someone always respect the other person and their choices.

3) TRUST AND LOYALTY

The other most important factors in a relationship are trust and loyalty. If the two of you are serious about each other and wish to stay together for a really long time, then trust and loyalty should go hand in hand. There might be instances where your partner might show hints of jealousy, but make sure that this jealousy does not turn into insecurity. Stopping one another from going somewhere, doing something or meeting people, in the name ‘love’, is nothing but clear reflection of insecurity, lack of trust and emotional blackmail. I will be honest, there are going to be ample of people who might envy your relationship and try to interfere and break your relationship in some or the other way. It is on you to realize who your real well wishers are and who are just envious. This when loyalty comes into picture. The best proof of love is trust and if you truly love someone being faithful will be easy.

4) HAVE YOUR OWN INTERESTS

Since you are in love, it is obvious you would want to spend almost all of your time with your partner. But this should not be the case. Each of you have your own personal life as well and that should not be neglected. Meet your friends, continue playing your favourite sports, most importantly focus on studying so that you do not get bad grades. Respect each other’s personal space.

5) COMMUNICATE

Last but not the least, communicate. If you have any problem with your partner, talk to them and open up. If you aren’t liking something or are not comfortable, say it. Hiding your problems and suppressing your emotions will only cause more differences between the two of you. If the two of you act maturely to face your problems, your relationship will only get stronger every time.

Always remember, college life is going to be one of the most memorable time of your life and you are lucky enough if you have a special person to go through it together. Enjoy each moment you spend together and it will help the relationship last long.

WITH THE RIGHT PERSON, YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORK TOO HARD TO BE HAPPY.